It’s interesting what you can suddenly remember.
I remember about 12-13 years ago, I told my wife I felt like I had all but conquered the social anxieties that had once held me back. I asked if she agreed that it was amazing how far I’d come.
Here was a chance for her to affirm and support me. What do you think she said?
“Uh, you’ve still got a long way to go. People have told me that there’s something about you that makes them feel really uncomfortable. I’m just telling you for your own good”
I’ve lived with this as a truth for the last 12-13 years, that I am awkward and make people feel uncomfortable. Now, there may be some truth to it. I lived a pretty isolated life for most of my adolescence and can sometimes be very nervous around people. But it is interesting how my perception of myself once again ties back to her.